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haha.this is what i’ve diagnosed myself with.by reading an article from martha stewart’s.sigh…bummer.i think i am a mixture of the fortune teller and control freak.hehe mesti korang skang takut kan dah nak berkawan.nyeh3

Worry Profile: The Control Freak
Consciously or not, you believe you can control the universe through your thoughts. If you worry about it enough, you’ll make that good thing happen (or prevent a bad thing from happening). Consumed by uncertainty and fearful of change, you feel you could stop worrying if only you had the one thing that forever eludes you: total control.(i mean,who doesn’t right?)

Diagnosis
Wouldn’t life be easy if you knew what will happen tomorrow, six months, or five years from now? Since you don’t, you use worry to protect yourself from the unknown — with mixed results. “Life is profoundly impermanent and constantly changing,” says Cope, “and it’s best to let go of attempts to control experiences and outcomes.” Granted, worry can motivate us to prepare for the worst (pack an umbrella). But the notion that we can control the future with worry is inherently flawed — delusional thinking at best.
Coping Strategy
Get Absorbed in the Present
“Give yourself something delightful and compelling to focus on right now,” says Cope. When you walk your dog, focus on the swing and rhythm of your legs. When you eat an orange, allow the whole of your attention to be absorbed by it — the scent, the texture, the weight of it in your hand. If your attention starts to wander, gently bring it back. The more in tune you are with this central, observing part of yourself, the easier it is to embrace the flow of life without feeling threatened — and the fewer opportunities you give worry to creep in.

Worry Profile: The Fortune-Teller
You believe your worry is a barometer or sign of future catastrophe. You live under the assumption that your worries predict what the future holds. If it’s on your radar as a cause for concern, it must, therefore, be a true threat.

Diagnosis
The problem, says Denise Marek, author of “CALM: A Proven Four-Step Process Designed Specifically for Women Who Worry,” lies in an inability to tell the difference between worry and intuition. It’s easy to see how we might get the two confused, since they share trademark signs: a sense of impending doom, a change in physical sensation (nagging headache, nervous stomach). But there’s one key differentiating factor. “Intuition starts as a feeling,” says Marek. “Worry starts as a thought.

“To tell the difference, tune in to what comes first. For instance, you may get the heebies when you’re introduced to a new colleague. It could be your intuition telling you he can’t be trusted. But if you’re already worried about your job security, the unsettled feeling may really reflect worry, not intuition — in this case, that this guy poses a threat to your position. “If you worry that something bad may happen, the resulting nagging or negative sensation can cause you to misread that signal,” says Marek. Another key distinguishing factor: “Worry breeds anxiety, but intuition breeds calm,” says Marek. If your worrying worsens, reducing your ability to focus, chances are it’s stemming from anxiety. Intuition, on the other hand, often brings clarity, insight, and sound decision-making; you feel more sure, not less, of what you need to do.

Coping Strategy

Take the Intuition Test

Pay close attention not just to the physical sensations you experience, but to how and when you began to feel them. If you experience a gut feeling, take a closer look at what may be the source of it. If it resulted from an interaction or a fleeting insight, ask yourself what might have caused it. If it came as a result of thoughts, chalk it up to worry-induced anxiety, and let it go.

have i told u i am a HUGEEEE fan of ice cream.especially chocolate chip mint.aaaaahhhh…heaven.no flavour can beat choc chip mint.like NEVER.hehe psycho kan?i know.but seriously,i think ice cream is the best comforting food ever.in my opinion la.like during finals,bobot had to stocked up the freezer with mc flurry and mc sundae.i eat them at least 3 times a day.the cost of depression during exam is very expensive in my case.hehe but we really didn’t have the choice of other ice cream cos being in oversea(a post soviet country that is),we are not spoilt with choices of halal ice cream.huhu..sad case.but anyways,now i’m back in malaysia for good,i still haven’t eaten the ever greatest swensen’s earthquake!grrrr….geramnya!!!can u believe it????huhu..choc chip mint,chocolate freckles…arghhh!!!stress.now,i’m regretting to have made the decision to stay in west malaysia.they simply didn’t have many choices of reeeeallly good food.huhuhu…mainly ice cream (that’s the only thing that matters to me.heh)

p/s please pray for my bobot sayang’s speedy recovery.bobot demam=no chat=me being depressive.(biasala kan?)so please get well soon,can’t wait to cakap banyak2 with u..huhu..

i know,it may be pretty obvious that i have a very strong opinion and feeling/emotion (hell,i don’t even know what is the right word) on niqab issue.this issue is clearly placed very strongly in my heart.and i do wish it remains that way forever.pity that there are so many misunderstandings which cause difficulties to our dear sisters who are trying their BEST to get close to Allah. however,nowadays,many muslimat does not even have the slightest envy towards these sisters,furthermore they just had to make stupid comments (critiques more likely) on a subject they didn’t even try to understand. i am not keeping quiet on this matter.may this article from kak chik’s wardrobe would be a hidayah to all of us.and please play your part as a moslem and spread the truth about niqab.

Assalamualaikum, peace and blessings of Allah to all of you.

Today I’m sharing with you one story about why a woman choose to cover her face with a piece of cloth called niqab (purdah).

This is written by a sister who’s blog I’ve been following for quite sometime. What she wrote about her experience in wearing the niqab (purdah) has certain similarities with my own experience. I’ve decided to share her story here for us to ponder. As all of us know the current news is about the banning of niqab in Egypt and a few days ago it was seemly supported by my own Government. I might write about it later but depends on the true facts and stories behind the newspapers’ reports.

Anyway, this is her story:

My Niqab

By: http://ahliajannah.blogspot.com/
Through: http://islam-is-beautiful.blogspot.com/

Quite recently, I’ve started to put on the niqab. In Malaysia, niqab is not that prevalent. Although most of the muslim women do cover their hair, still… muslim women covering their full aurat is quite sparse. It’s quite challenging wearing the niqab. Wherever I go, all eyes are on me (…well anyway that’s how I feel) . The worst part is when, sometimes, small kids run away from me because they are scared of me. Look ma…hantu/ghost/zorro/ninja…..Sigh. I really feel bad about this. I do try to smile at them (although they can’t see me from behind the veil) hoping that my warm and friendly aura can penetrate thru the niqab. I really don’t want to frighten children. I know they do not understand. SubhanALlah, even adults do not understand, then, how can small children be any better?

There are varying reasons why I have decided to put on the niqab. My main belief is that the niqab is a form of sunnah. As much as I feel strongly that eating with my right hand is sunnah, so too, I do believe that covering of my face is sunnah. InsyaAllah, Allah swt has promises that there is success in adhering to Rasulullah saw’s sunnah. With each sunnah that a muslim adhere to with istiqamah, Allah swt will grant him/her with 100 rewards of a syahid. Adhering to sunnah is totally alien nowadays. In this world of fasya and mungkar, following the sunnah or the way of rasulullullah saw’s life is going against all that everyone else believe in. It is like swimming upstream against the flowing river. In fact, in a hadith, rasullullah saw has prophesized and told his sahabah that there will be a time when following the sunnah is like holding on to a burning wood fire.

Dikeluarkan oleh Abu Hakim daripada Ibnu Mas’ud ra sebagaimana dalam Kanzul Ummal dan Jami’us Saghir Rasulullah saw bersabda mafhumnya ” Org yg berpegang kepada sunnahku di zaman perselisihan ummatku adalah seperti org yg menggenggam bara api” (Hayatus Sahabah Jilid 1 versi Melayu)

Truly, what rasulullah saw said applies to our time now. We are the “umat akhir zaman”.

Everyday, we can see muslim women wearing skimpy clothing. In fact, in newspaper, magazines and tv, some muslim women wear very little clothing. However, nobody bats an eye at this. I bet no one will run away from these ladies and call them names…Look ma…almost naked lady! In fact, knowing the boys, I bet they will try to inch closer to get a better look at what is on display.

I bear no grudges to these semi-clothed ladies or the public who look down upon people who choose to cover their face. After all, this is my battle…my jihad. I am doing this first and foremost for myself. For my iman. It is said that adhering to sunnah is likened to a shield. A protection for our iman. The more sunnah that we practise in our life, the stronger the shield that you built for your iman.

When i first started to put on the niqab, I was overly conscious. Fearing that all of my actions are under close scrutiny by the misunderstood/misinformed public. I chose to stay indoors. Feeling that my iman is too weak to face any criticism from anyone, I felt that it is best if I stay clear of the general public. Closing myself off from even friends and family. In fact, I barely venture out of my home. Even to step off my front lawn to water the plants or hang my laundry became such a chore. Somehow, I’ve become pseudo-agoraphobic (is there such a word). My hubby was at his wits end. Suddenly his outdoorsy and independent wife has become sooo timid and introverted. What to do??? I guess I kinda put my hubby through quite a rough couple of months.

Alhamdulillah, as days passed by…slowly ALlah swt gave me understanding. It is not important that people around me do not understand the niqab. It is true…tidak kenal maka tidak cinta. Before this, I used to feel the same way about the niqab. I am helpless to change the public’s opinion. Only ALlah has power to do this. I am the person who must first change. Granted, I am wearing the niqab as a journey for my iman…but to have peace with my niqab, I must also understand that I should wear my niqab with pride. Not because I feel that I am far better off than the average muslim women…NO…I must feel proud because I have been blessed that Allah swt has shown me to this path. So, it is my duty to wear the niqab in public. To show to the rest of the people that it is not an ugly and fearful clothing. To show that I am just an ordinary person..yet I put on the niqab. Not because I am superior in knowledge or amal. But because it helps me to control my eyes and my attitude. It helps me to be wary (tawajjuh) of ALlah swt. To reinforce in me the idea that ALlah swt is ever watchful of me.

Thus, it is sad but true…I am just an average muslim lady. Battling everyday against my personal weaknesses and devils. My hubby said, we are definitely not the best of people…But everyday, we strive to better ourselves. Sometimes we fault and err but, we try outmost to never give up. After all, we are weak insans covered with much sin. Only ALlah is Most Rahman and Most Rahim. He understands and helps us through the bumps and dips in our journey. Life is too short. Barely seconds compared to the infinite akhirah. Who knows when my number will be up. Hopefully, through this small effort on my part, I pray that I shall obtain ALlah swt’s benevolence. Insya ALlah. AMin.

NOTE:

The similarities that I have with her is the one that I’ve bolded in yellow. As for my own story I’m still thinking of how to present to you because I’m not much of a narrator.

IMHO what she was telling us is what many Muslimah who covers their face has gone through. Maybe not the exactly same experience but still there are similarities.

I hope we can always be free to practice what we believe and I pray to Allah that there won’t be any kind of law banning the wearing of niqab in this state or in Malaysia.

go kak chik!i wish u all the best in promoting niqab to our society.may Allah eases the burden to those who practices the sunnah at this particurlar era. niqab is NOT a barrier and should never been given the chance to be treated one. bikini boleh je diterima masyarakat,xkan la niqab xleh kan?fikir-fikir kan la…

the cost of dry cleaning in malaysia is filthy expensive.but then all the reaaaaaaally nice shirts,baju kurungs,etc are usually the dry cleaning items.just stumbled upon this article by martha stewart on how to do your own dry cleaning.hehe =D syiokkkkk weh.thank u soooo much ze ever great martha stewart!

How to Wash Dry cleanable Clothes

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If seeing the phrase “Dry Clean” on new garments makes you cringe — either because of the toxic chemicals most cleaners use, or the prices they charge — there’s hope. Many delicate items labeled this way can safely be washed by hand at home using a gentle detergent. Follow these steps to make your clothes clean and green.
Decode the Care Labels
If a garment can be washed or dry cleaned, manufacturers need only list one method. To prevent mishaps, they’ll usually print “Dry Clean.” These items can typically be hand washed. “Dry Clean Only,” however, means exactly that.
Note the Fabric and Detailing
Simple, solid-color cotton, wool, linen, rayon, and “washable silk” items can generally tolerate hand washing. Let the pros handle anything with bright prints or colors that may bleed, clothing made of traditional silk, or anything with delicate stitching or beading.
Wash Carefully
Fill a clean sink or washbasin with lukewarm water, then add a few drops of detergent, preferably one made for delicates. Add the garment and swish for three to five minutes. Avoid excess agitation, which causes shrinkage. Rinse the item in fresh water, then gently squeeze out the excess water. Do not wring it out, as this can damage the fabric.
Dry Right
Place the item flat on a clean bath towel and reshape. Roll the towel up, pressing the remaining moisture out of the garment as you go. Unroll, transfer to a fresh towel, and repeat. Unroll, and lay the item flat on a drying rack or another clean towel to air dry, flipping it halfway through.
Text by Donna Garlough
From Body+Soul
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well,in case u haven’t check out her website,u should.serious.there are wide range of topics,from bedroom decorations, super duper yummy recipes (her brownies are amazing!!!and double choc cookies.mouth watering..),organizing room and even budgets!,wedding tips,amazingly beautiful crafts with how-tos and soooo much more!there is no ending to reading this website.really.even looking at the pictures has already me drooling…arghhhh!!!and i am fasting.hungry…(growl)

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some people(in a veryyy irritated tone)are just sooo plain busy body.they are just soooo nosy that they didn’t realise that they are reallllyyyy getting on people’s nerves!!!it’s their nature really,and they definitely DON’T change.seriously.irritating gle…
u know what,i am going to pray for u so u change for good.really.or even try to change.that would be good.ya,good for us surrounding people.hmph.please mind your own business,and in case u have forgotten,there are definitely certain ways to ask a person nicely.oh haven’t u learned it before?oops..
wow,higher education really doesn’t make anyone any smarter.guess u didn’t realise it..

just found out the date MIL is leaving msia for hajj.it’s 22nd.just imagine.22nd.huhu…next week je tau.sedihnye..and another support system is leaving me behind. i am so sad…=(
hopefully all these will end soon without me noticing it(errr….right)i am surely going to dread this departing…(all teary)sigh..

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muahahaha.u have got to be kidding?????do u really think i would buy it?????lame laa…

today has got to be one of the most unproductive day.i wish i had much more “better” things to do.haha i really don’t know what i’m saying.clearly.all i did today were lots of blog hopping,had a very very short chat with bobot (while quarelling with kenit who gets to talk to the microphone.sigh..),cleaned up the cats cage and bathed kenit (thanks to her,i am now officially without a feminine wash.she threw EVERYTHING into the toilet bowl in attempt to make bubbles.harrumph)ok,cute mungkin korang rasa tapi bile dh tgk toilet kite basah dan toiletbowl itu penuh dgn buih-buihan,adala gak rs cam agakdhglagddg.huhu…
hmm there are times i feel that i can express certain things better in malay,like there are actually many many words in malay that i don’t think can be replace with an english word.for example:

beb,aku rasa mamat tu cute gle ar…
ish,dan dan la ko kan,dulu ko punyela menyampah aku suka mamat chinese look.

(the ones in green are the words that i’m stressing upon)or even simple words such as “hampas”,”doh”(i don’t even know if it’s a language but it is definitely weird to be used in english sentences.hehe just imagine.

really doh…hihi.adalah sgt janggal begitu.with these words, certain sentence can go “uuuumph!” don’t u think so?tahla,adake words dalam english yg leh gantikan words2 begitu?ok,clearly dah merepek jauh gle.
just now,i was blog hopping at my ex-teacher in my high school which she put up a post on “former students,where are u now?”(something like that,my memory is a big no-no)where she is asking on our whereabouts and achievements to be compiled.like gulp,my heart sank.i’m in a middle of crisis where i am about to work in a field which is ABSOLUTELY not anywhere near what i have studied for the past  6 years.hmmm…achievement?i don’t know…
i am probably having the hardest time in my whole entire life(hah.go figure.pretty obvious i think)at this mo.but i am really hoping for my future,am praying that it comes with lots and lots of happiness.(whatever that is going to happen) =D hopefully..i am scared but i don’t want to go and start becoming the psychotic me(where i think waaaaaaaaaaaay too much).i just hope that the future will be unfold bit by bit.at least let me take a peek,like soon?hehe i just leave it ur hands,Allah and hopefully i believe it strongly in my heart that everything happens must happen for a reason.yela, i am human too ok,there may be times when i am so weak and i start to question so many things.sigh…shameful i know.=( moga2 la dimaafkan.
is there work at home job available?i can  type really fast.hehe promote diri promote.and no,i don’t type that fast, probably around 35 words per minute.huhu..ok whatever,just hire me already!(desperate)

p/s mind the rantings for today as i am clearly out of my element.(haha)gelak kat diri sendiri.le sigh..

saw this on youtube.hehe i am a big fan of animals.not big,sorry.HUGE!like it doesn’t matter if it is a dog,goat anything,everything(oh,except for cockroaches and worms.wait,are they considered as animals?)well, anyway, i thought the video was well done,we may take simple deeds like this lightly when yep,probably it is the key to paradise. well,for me,i don’t know about u guys, but i really can’t stand those people who can’t treat animals properly. i find it reflects on how u actually treat humans.really?don’t u agree with me?
animals are Allah’s creatures too. therefore,if they are tortured or treated badly,don’t u think that their prayers will be answered by Allah.didn’t we all know that the doa by the tortured creatures are the most mujarrab?
may this be a reminder to all of us.